Entries from October 1, 2006 - November 1, 2006
Altarnate plans
Maybe you've heard this before, and I'd like to affirm it: planning a wedding is a nightmare. I feel like wedding planning makes people suddenly bipolar, like their best and worst sides are exaggerated and they swing wildly between the two. I think this has been true for me, and it has certainly been true for some people close to me, and I need it to stop.
There are two extremes when it comes to weddings: the super-duper ultraplanned EVENT and the elopement--bride, groom, preacher. I have found it funny since I've been engaged that people I know, from acquaintances to family, seem to feel like they are all entitled to have a say in the wedding. My friend Jace observed that people get defensive at the prospect of a private wedding, that many people seem to feel like weddings belong to the public. While witness is important, the most true thing about a wedding is that it is the uniting of only TWO people. In this sense, isn't elopement the best chance anyone has of expressing the singular and exclusive love that marriage represents?
Conrad told me once that he fantasized about having a wedding like the clandestine ceremony between William and Murron in Braveheart. More and more that's what I want to do. All I care about is having Conrad as my husband, and all this bullshit that stands between the present and our marriage--I'm through letting it cause me one ounce of grief.
April
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I realized the other day that Conrad won't be proposing to me again. The declaration of love and how he wants to share his life with me from this day forward and the kneeling and the presentation of the ring and the crying and the celebrating and the climactic moment: over. When I realized this, I was like, "SUCK!" because it was so fun the first time and I think I would like to have another one. And then another.
Of course, this could be achieved should someone else propose to me on down the line, but Conrad and I are in agreement that "until death do us part" is a solemn vow and the only way our marriage will end. Do you believe in divorce, people ask. Well, yes I believe it exists, but I don't believe it is an option for me. So I'm back to the single proposal. Not that it wasn't wonderful, perfect and everything I ever imagined it should be. That's the problem! I want to have Conrad propose to me all the time. Because I'd love to hear him ask me that question every day for the rest of my life.
And every day, say: Yes.
Polly George
Today I was turned on to these lovely pieces from Polly George. My favorite is the butterfly teapot. They remind me a lot of Callesen's papercuts--the clean white ceramics let the shapes take center stage. I love the idea of smashing fruit on the heads of the lilliputian people in the Mr. and Mrs. Jones line. So witty. Thanks Joy!
As if I need another thing to do
I've signed up for the cake + pie/freshly{blended} Holiday Ornament Swap. It works like this: You sign up. You get a list of 8-10 people from around the globe to send holiday ornaments to. You make 8-10 ornaments in any medium and mail them to the people on your list. You get 8-10 ornaments in the mail from around the world. How cool is that? If you're crafty like me, sign up here! I'm getting very excited about what I might receive and what I'm going to make.
