Altarnate plans
Maybe you've heard this before, and I'd like to affirm it: planning a wedding is a nightmare. I feel like wedding planning makes people suddenly bipolar, like their best and worst sides are exaggerated and they swing wildly between the two. I think this has been true for me, and it has certainly been true for some people close to me, and I need it to stop.
There are two extremes when it comes to weddings: the super-duper ultraplanned EVENT and the elopement--bride, groom, preacher. I have found it funny since I've been engaged that people I know, from acquaintances to family, seem to feel like they are all entitled to have a say in the wedding. My friend Jace observed that people get defensive at the prospect of a private wedding, that many people seem to feel like weddings belong to the public. While witness is important, the most true thing about a wedding is that it is the uniting of only TWO people. In this sense, isn't elopement the best chance anyone has of expressing the singular and exclusive love that marriage represents?
Conrad told me once that he fantasized about having a wedding like the clandestine ceremony between William and Murron in Braveheart. More and more that's what I want to do. All I care about is having Conrad as my husband, and all this bullshit that stands between the present and our marriage--I'm through letting it cause me one ounce of grief.
April
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